Have Faith….Believe In Yourself !
Being successful is as much about self-confidence as it is about
anything else. People who constantly doubt themselves often
can’t reach their goals because their negative thoughts act as
saboteurs, preventing them from doing the things they want to
That’s why the first step of the success mindset is believing in
Dealing with Naysayers and Self Doubt
When you set a goal, you may find that people in your life express
doubts or dismiss your goal as unreasonable or unattainable. You
may also hear a little voice in your head that says you can’t do
what you want to do.
If you want to succeed, you’ve got to find a way to silence both
the naysayers in your life and your negative inner critic. Listening
to either can sabotage your best efforts and ensure you don’t
With the naysayers, you’ve got three options:
- Ignore them and let their negativity roll off your back
- Talk to them and convince them not to be negative
- Avoid their company
The right choice may vary from person to person. Sometimes,
friends and family don’t realise they’re being negative. When
that’s the case, a simple, “Hey, I’d appreciate it if you’d find a way
to be positive about my goals” might do the trick.
Some people might be unwilling or unable to curb their negativity.
When that’s the case, you’ll have to decide if you can ignore it or
if you’re better off avoiding their company. Choose the option
that’s right for you.
Avoiding the inner critic is more challenging because you carry it
around with you. A good option is to re frame the negativity and
imagine that instead of talking to yourself, you’re talking to a dear
friend. You wouldn’t be rude or insensitive to a friend, so don’t
treat yourself that way either!
Identifying Your Strengths
Believing in yourself is easier when you recognise your strengths.
We’ve all got things we do well, so why not celebrate them?
You can cultivate a mindset of self-believe by making a list of the
things you do best. Are you a great salesperson? An innovator? A
Write down your strongest traits and abilities and then turn them
into affirmations. When you’re heading into a meeting or
negotiation or planning session, read the list and remind yourself
that you’re a terrific negotiator or a strong speaker. It’ll put a
spring in your step and help you maintain a positive outlook.
Overcoming Fears and Negative Thoughts
The flip side of acknowledging your strengths is looking at your
fears and negative thoughts and finding ways to overcome them.
We’re all afraid of something. What sets us apart is how we
handle those fears.
With negative thoughts, try re framing them as things you would
say to a friend. You can even write out your negative thoughts
and then rewrite them with a positive spin.
Fears are a little trickier. You’re going to need to face them. Look
for ways to give yourself the tools you need to overcome your
fears. For example, someone with a fear of public speaking might
join Toastmasters to get critiques and encouragements from
Building a Business Plan
Sometimes people fail due to a lack of planning. You’ll have a
better chance of achieving your goals if you lay out a concrete
plan for achieving them.
Writing a business plan takes time and effort. You’ll need to think
about your specific goals and break them down into actionable
steps. Decide what resources you’ll need and how you plan to get
them, and create immediate, short-term, and long-term goals.
The benefit of writing a business plan is that it will:
∎ Help you clarify your goals
∎ Make it easier to tell if you’ve got a goal that’s too ambitious
or not ambitious enough
∎ Help you fine-tune your ideas
∎ Serve as a template for approaching investors, partners, and
others to talk about your business
It might be a lot of work, but the time you spend on your business plan will help you achieve a success mindset.
Getting Inspiration from Successful People
When you’re aiming for a lofty goal, it’s easy to get discouraged.
It’s also easy to look at other successful people and tell yourself
that you can’t do what they did – or that they were never where
The truth is everybody struggles in some way. You can find
inspiration by seeking out stories about successful people who
overcame negative thinking or other obstacles.
One example is the novelist Stephen King. One of his earliest
novels, Carrie, was rejected by more than 30 publishers before it
was finally accepted. If he’d given up, he wouldn’t be one of the
most famous and successful authors in the world.
Did you know that Bill Gates had a failed company before he
started Microsoft? And that Walt Disney was fired by the Kansas
City Star because his editor said he lacked imagination and had no
The point here is that if you let the naysayers hold you back, you
won’t be successful. The only way to succeed is to believe in